Wednesday, July 16, 2008

Desolate? Controlling? or Both?

The third chapter of Captivating discusses how women, in our sin nature, because of the fall/curse, tend to either be contolling or we become desolate and withdraw all together. In talking about this today with a few friends, it seems that we all had a little of both; well, we may have favored one over the other, but we still went in both directions. The most common tactic seemed to be that we withdraw from others and protect our vulnerability by not even giving others a chance to hurt us and then we become controlling with our immediate surroundings,i.e our homes, family members etc., to help us still feel like we are in control and that we are choosing to live like this.

But this is not what we really want! We just feel alone, abandoned, and not good enough.

This is not how God created us!

If we felt lovely, beautiful, wanted, if we felt truly at rest with how God created us, then we wouldn't feel the need to control; we wouldn't feel the need to withdraw. It seems that the need to feel wanted is the most common issue at the moment within our church body. For months now so many of us have struggled with feeling like we aren't wanted by others. Although this issue will never be 100% gone until we are with the Lord, I have to say that I am so proud of us Stirring ladies speaking out about this; we are being honest; we are being vulnerable; we are fighting against the enemy and he is losing ground fast! Keep up the fight ladies. Let your warrior princess out and allow your beauty to shine through...we need it...I need it...our men need it...our kids need it...our church body needs it...the world needs it!


Becky Moseley said...

It was so good to talk with you girls about all this and realize I'm not alone in feeling the way I do. It's funny how once I admit something to myself outloud, I feel ready to put on my warrior princess gear and fight that particular battle. Glad to know you're fighting it with me! Loves.

Leah said...

This is so true. And while its hard to admit to one another, once it's out there and we have warrior sisters fighting with us, the Enemy loses ground and we can begin winning battles! Amen!

emilyrose said...

So, you are amazing and I would love to meet up with you one of these days. You're an amazingly easy person to talk to! I'm totally free these days (darn my back!) so whenever you are free, let me knos!!

Sarah said...

ok so I'm really glad I finally got to meet you and hope that now we can get to know each other better....I love reading your blog...loving your insights on women:)see ya around!

Rachael said...

I loved see you the other night!!!

Juliette said...

I just saw this blog - a couple weeks later - oh well :) I just want to commend you for continuing to bring up this topic. You are a bold and obedient woman and you are blessing to all the women around you.
I definitely need to read Captivating again, you are getting so much out of it. YOu should lead a life group about it!